* I want to disclaim that I’m not bashing on religion or praying. If those thing bring you peace I think that’s amazing and that you should keep doing it. Personally, it didn’t work for me and this post is to give alternative methods to coping with infertility. *
My close friends and family usually refer to my views as “crunchy” or “alternative.” Oh, I have also been called”hippie dippie.” Which honestly, I’m not ashamed of. I stopped caring what people thought about me a long time ago.
I think it can go without saying, but I’ll say it anyway, I gave up on organized religion a long time ago. And I’ve never been happier. I feel confident with my beliefs and spirituality. I find comfort in nature and energy and I’m really REALLY (I promise) okay with that. However, coming from a very religious background I get a lot of comments about how I cope with my infertility. Here are some examples that have actually 100% been said to me:
“I think if you would just pray you wouldn’t have to worry about these issues.”
“Why didn’t you ask to be healed after your miscarriage?”
“You need to have more faith.”
I could go on but just typing these 3 phrases triggered me and made me upset so I will move on.
I have a hard time with these questions/comments not because I’m ashamed of who I am or feel guilty for giving up religion, but because it implies that I am being punished. It implies that even though I’m happy, healthy, and want the best for every living being I interact with, I am being punished. This makes no sense. I have many religious friends that have had trouble conceiving. It absolutely infuriates me to the core when I have to explain that infertility is a disease and not a punishment. It’s a waste of energy.
When I began this journey of trying to start a family, I was told countless times that I just needed to pray. I wanted to scream that “just praying” never made me feel better. Even when I was religious. I am the kind of person that finds peace in doing something. Grounding myself with something that is tangible. Here are some examples of how I have found that peace.
- Practicing yoga
- Daily meditation
- Chinese medicine such as acupuncture
- Energy healing
- Surrounding myself with positive influences
- Walking in nature – if you do this barefoot it’s an added bonus
These are just some ways that you can ground yourself and find peace in your life. What works for me may not work for you. Find what makes you feel good and go with it. Make it a daily practice and send yourself SO MUCH love. YOU ARE A GODDESS.
What do you do to cope with your infertility?