The phrase that I have heard the most during my infertility journey, and the one I hate the most is this one…
“Just be patient it will happen.”
Que angry war cry.
I was recently listening to a podcast that talked about waiting. When couples are trying to conceive, (TTC) all they do is wait and it is the most maddening thing in the universe. Let me put it into perspective for you.
When you are first diagnosed with fertility issues, you and your husband have to go through multiple tests. Usually, your doctor will tell you to put the baby making on hold during the testing period. Aka waiting.
You get the green light to start trying. However, most of the time the first treatment plan doesn’t work so you have to try something different. Aka waiting.
You get a treatment plan that works. You have a medicated and timed cycle, scheduled sex, and scheduled ultrasounds. Aka waiting
You find out you ovulated, got your blood work back and your next step is….can you guess? Wait two weeks to find out if your pregnant or starting another cycle of treatment! And this just doesn’t end after 1,2, even 3 rounds of treatment. A lot of couple wait for years.
Waiting is quite literally all that infertile couples do. Despite the needles, hormones, and loss of privacy, the worst part of this journey is the waiting. I’ve read article after article on “How to Survive the Two Week Wait” or “How to Distract Yourself During Treatment” and all I have found is this….
It’s going to suck no matter what.
No amount of yoga, hiking, reading, writing, or bubble baths will make the waiting any less painful. It will decrease your amount of stress, but waiting is just something you have to endure. What I have learned is that this infertility journey has made me a lot more patient than I used to be. It’s also made me more resilient to things that life decides to throw at me. I guess in a sense this is a good thing since I used to be the most impatient person in the world. I just keep telling myself that this journey is going to make me a better mom and a better person in general.
To all my friends out there waiting for their miracle, it sucks and there is nothing that will make it better. However, you can surround yourself with a community of support. Cut your ties with anyone or anything that is giving you negative energy or decreasing your vibrations. Because…ain’t nobody got time for that.
You’re miracle is coming. It will just take some more waiting.